Tuesday, September 21, 2004


I've been thinking about issues of wants and needs, and the difference between the two. Or, more importantly, how one is obtainable through the right venues and the other may or may not be attainable no matter what you do. Today's story seems to be right in that vein. Here is a situation where gay couples want the same rights for their partners as are afforded for spouses on the premises of a country club. Again, this is a "want." They are taking it to court to force their way. Their needs of being able to be recognized and carry out their relationships without fear of retribution have been met. They are a protected class, and as should be. People should have the right to do what they want in their bedrooms and relationships so long as it does not infringe on the rights of others. What I do not understand - actually, I do understand it, because it is the nature we have when we are babies, without discipline and guidance - is why their "wants" should supersede the "wants" of the golf course and the other members. At some point, homosexuals need to understand that while they may desire something specific, they are not a majority, and good deal of the population is still not behind gay rights initiatives. Rather than be happy with how much they have accomplished and allowing people to come to terms with the new changes that have occurred regarding how gay individuals are perceived, they keep pushing the envelope. If we are truly going to deal in wants, then what the majority of the population wants should rule. Thankfully that is not always the case. Forcing others to do what you want just because you want it (of course, we call it fairness, just to get you in a corner) is not the correct way to operate. Neither is it effective. It creates divisions, bitterness, and spawns hate. I wish there was some way to help these folks realize that. While I certainly understand their desires, and, to a certain extent, I agree with them, brute force is not the way to do it.